As a bunch of twenty-somethings one of our most prevalent tendencies is to search until we feel as if we have found what we are looking for. We shuffle through social circles and work environments in search of the vibes and rhythms that most align with who we believe ourselves to be. We journey through experiences throughout high school and college in order to validate, or invalidate, our hunches and unsubstantiated beliefs. We search because we want to feel comfortable in our own skin, confident enough to attack the day, and, ultimately, gain the means to develop as human beings. Here are a few ways we can search and successfully find what that one thing is, whatever it may be:
- Seek Experiences: It is often said we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. On a larger scale we may be able to take the same idea of sums and averages and apply it to our individual experiences. Perhaps we become the sum of our most significant moments, interactions, and encounters.
- Find Your Life Treasure: Life treasure is the sought after core values that motivate us out bed and into the day; it is the confidence that grants us serenity to push through the obstacles of the day and achieve victory.
- Find Ultimate Value in that Treasure: For some, life treasure is religion, idealism, or something as tangible as a group of friends. Whatever it is for you, make it your everything.
- Nothing Else Matters: We live in a society of loud opinions, ambiguous norms, and, unfortunately, status quo. Retirement home folk are frequently on record as listing “caring too much about what others thought/not being themselves” as mistakes in their youth. Find your treasure, do not look to the right or left, and let the rest of life take care of itself.
Truthfully, we spend a lifetime seeking treasure. Right when we think we’ve found “it” we ultimately find that we still lack. I have seen some peers utterly fail in finding their “treasure”; their demise is found in their cynicism, fear of risk, and repeated patterns of self-destruction. So don’t be like my peers; be yourselves and fight for that treasure until it is the only thing you have.
Personal note: I’ll never forget the two quotes I left on the several hundred yearbooks of my high school. The first was “The Lion and the Tuna Story From the Other Guys” (super epic) and the second was this: “Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” It took up until just a few years ago to realize this, but the whole “Jesus as my treasure” thing hasn’t failed me yet; I hope it doesn’t. Just wanted to put it out there in case you may want a head start and find your treasure earlier than I did.